(not at the moment)
I am long past the time of being googly eyed over a mere naked woman. Or of basic sex
Also deliberate porn - for money - turns me on not at all.
I try to find - and these are very rare videos - a couple really going at it. Passionately, unself-consciousnessly.
Those are uncommon videos because similar to the Heisenberg uncertainty principle, when fucking people know they're on video, spontaneity goes right at the window.
Good porn to me is good sex, filmed. Not filmed sex good.
For example, that scene after the party trying to get the keys into the door while your tongue is in her mouth, fighting to get each others clothes off half tearing them, is a good start.
Problem is when you feel like that with another person the last thing either of you want to do, is take a video.
To stop the "let's fuck now!" to play director is a sure sign the couple is already bored with each other and using the adventure of recording to make up for their lack of adventure in sex.
And nowhere is their more potential adventure than during great sex.
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Then there's the problem of one party or the other just isn't into it.
When some weak ass usually white boy pounds his girl like they're in a library, i, get bored. So does she.
In homemade porn, that's really common.
The more kissing there is the more passion there is. A couple who don't stop the makeout for the intercourse really, want each other. Vaginal sex is surprisingly less intimate than kissing. You have to really like the other person to swap spit. To keep your face that close to theirs... means you want all of them. Not just their body.
Without scientific evidence, i think kissing is designed to chemically match the two attempting life creators. When we kiss, we change slightly the composition of our fluids to match each other. thus increasing the chance for pregnancy.
Also for that purpose cums pun intended the female orgasm.
I really enjoy "for my boyfriend" selfies of girls rubbing one out, because it's honest and accurate.
When you, cum, you close your legs really tightly and draw them up. Your body shivers with electrical release.
With only observational evidence and common sense, i think the female orgasm physically and electrically aids sperm on their mission. Supercharging them and hauling them up part of the way.
Thus the best sex biologically, also feels the best for both.
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Sex is supposed, to be like... like Captain Planet'ing each other. "By our powers combined, we are gonna make new life".
The timing of it all is figured out by both lovers as the passion builds. There's no "I'm going to cum you cum" spoken. They know. They build towards the singular, event together.
When both are exhausted, lying in each others arms for several minutes after, then I call it great sex. Anything less is bad, sex. It's each person just trying to have an orgasm via the other.
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That's what happens to most couples I gather. After a few honeymoons of eager fucking, they settle down into "let's get each other off". Which settles into "I can get myself off easier". Which settles in the usual relationship.
A boyfriend or husband who wants to look at porn is in a sunken relationship. You've got a girl right there. What the fuck are you doing?
Well, the girl might not want to. Because she doesn't like him that way anymore. Not really. It's become a job.
Bad. A relationship in that sexual situation is destroyed.
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It's gotta feel like two teenagers in our parents basement every time. Forever. And it can.